Schools Need it More Than Ever!!

I have had to pause with my writing for a while because my emotions have been all over the place since the school shootings in Florida.  The school is about 30 minutes from where I live.  I have had to stop my car and let funeral processions for some of the victims go by.  I have spoken to people who knew the teachers or students.  It is more real to me since I live here. teacher and students

My first thought is that schools need to implement from the youngest age The Inner Essence Project or some program that teaches compassion and cooperation.   There is such a great need for love, compassion, community, and cooperation in our schools among the teachers, staff, and students.  If we can begin teaching children compassion and how to monitor their behaviors and emotions they will become healthier as they grow older.  They will be able to support each other and know when their support is not enough and let a professional know.Teacher with children in classroom, boys and girls in school

Children are the future and teachers and the ones to lead and educate them as to how to be loving, happy, and compassionate members of a community.   I do not understand why teachers are paid so poorly given their enormous responsibility.  I know many teachers who have to take a 2nd or 3rd job to make ends meet.  This is not right.


There is so much wrong with our educational system but the respect and recognition that teachers receive are the worst.  The average starting teacher salary is $36,000.  The average highest paying teacher salary is $56,000.  This is so wrong.  These men and women are educating and, now protecting, our children.  They are forming the future of our country.

When I went to India teachers were deeply respected and honored.  When they learned I was a teacher they put their hands together and bowed as if they were in the company of someone great. indian woman namaste Yes, teachers are considered great in India and other countries.  But, here, they are at the bottom of the professional pay scale and often with little respect.

This has been my “soapbox” for a while.  I don’t understand how a country can think so little of teachers and students to not immediately ban weapons of war.  To me, this is a no-brainer.


They are the Future

My strong opinion about children is that THEY ARE THE FUTURE and we need to carefully and intentionally let them develop into the person they are meant to be – spiritually,  emotionally and intellectually.  I believe that we need to honor each of their individual stages by recognizing them and allowing the time needed to develop their social, emotional, and intellectual skills.  Each child has a learning style preference that we need to be aware of and used when with them.  Some children are more visual or more auditory.  Some children prefer to learn things sequentially and other prefer to have all the information at once.  teacher

It is our duties as parents, teachers, grandparents and so on to acknowledge children’s preferences and allow them to move through their day, especially at school, as comfortable and successful as possible.

Teacher with children in classroom, boys and girls in school

I am developing this site to support anyone who interacts with children whether a parent, grandparent, teacher and so on.  I will break my information down into Social/Emotional, Academic, and Other.

If you have any questions or topics you would like me to address please comment below and I will make sure to address them.


I am looking forward to connecting with you.Girl Happy Outdoor Happy Kid Happy Kids Playing












Power of Vision Boards

future-vision street sign


The New Year is approaching and I do a yearly routine that I want to share with you.   Every January 1st or around that date I sit at a table with all the magazines and catalogs that I have been saving, scissors, and a glue stick.  I practice the Five Laws of Life (Living from Your Heart: The Inner Essence Journey) throughout the year but I take this time each year to commit to myself, my intentions, possibilities, and choices.  I believe in the power of vision boards.  lit candle


When I start creating my vision board I make sure I am not interrupted and often light a candle or do something symbolic for the emergence of the next year.   I usually spend some time in the days before thinking about what to put on the board.  So, now I am ready to cut and glue my goals for the next year.  I generally use a full or a half of a poster board.  Sometimes I select one that is colored instead of just white.  I saw someone’s vision board that was the inside cover and the first page of a spiral notebook.  Then, he used the notebook throughout the year for notes, “to do’s”, quotes etc.  (see below)


Now, I start cutting and gluing images of what I would like to experience, achieve and so on for the next year.  It’s so enjoyable to flip through magazines, look at pictures and ponder whether it is worthy to be on my Board of Next Year. Ocean?  Books?  People?  Church?  Time alone?  Meditations?  New car?  Candles?  What would be on yours?  House?  Baby?  New lawn mower?  Skiing?  School?  or what?

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It’s nice sometimes to do this ritual with others.  It’s fun and a good way to spend quality time with your family or friends.  I used to do it with my kids when they were little.  I kept them and shared them when they were older.  We all enjoyed remembering and reminiscing as a family. I am always impressed and inspired to see how intentions work.  I can see all their age appropriate pictures – baby dolls, legos, books, bikes, boys or girls, money, college mascots and so on.

I still do it now even though my kids are grown and on their own.  I love that time each year when I can focus on me and only me.

One key to remember is not to be attached to the outcome.  I put my intentions out there and trust that whatever happens will be perfect.


How to Avoid Holiday Stress

If you have been following this site or read the book Living from Your Heart you will understand how important it is to practice your Essence Journey especially during the holidays.   The holidays often add stress, anxiety, and a wide range of emotions. To eliminate these feelings, stop doing some behaviors that are precursors to the stress and so on.

The behaviors that you need to stop doing to avoid holiday stress, and permanent stress if you have the commitment, are Wanting, Holding, Assuming, and Monitoring. I will talk about these four behaviors in this article. Most importantly, all four of these behaviors are fine as long as they do not cause pain or suffering to you or anyone else.

Wanting – This is a behavior to stop when you want an item, want something to happen, or want something not to happen and pain and suffering happens if it doesn’t happen. Here are some examples of wanting that needs to stop. Paul wants a promotion at his job. He has been counting on it for months and has already planned what he will do with the increase in pay. Paul did not get the promotion and he was devastated. He became depressed, angry, and was snapping at his colleagues. He felt that his manager didn’t like him and that’s why he didn’t get the promotion. He felt pain in his stomach and his neck. Paul has wanted that promotion too much and when it didn’t occur he felt such pain and so did others that he was around. In order for Paul, or anyone, to stop a wanting that causes pain and suffering he must recognize that he is doing that behavior. He is wanting something to happen to the point that his life will be affected poorly if he doesn’t get that to happen. Next, is for Paul to stop wanting that behavior to happen so badly.

Meredith wanted everyone to celebrate the holidays at her house because she just finished all the renovations. Several family members have made other plans and will not be at her house. Meredith became sad, angry, and felt rejected. She felt pain in her heart area and her lower back. Her anger caused tension within the family and there were a few verbal arguments around this topic. Meredith’s wanting the celebration to be at her house was unhealthy. It would have been best if she noticed her unhealthy wanting and stopped it before it became such a problem.

Holding – Holding is another behavior that can cause pain and suffering when you are holding on to something or someone so rigidly that if you have to let go you will feel pain and suffering. Holding during the holidays is a common occurrence. For example, Ruth holds tightly to traditions that no one wants to participate. Her family always opened one gift on Christmas Eve. Now that her son is married and has a child they don’t do that tradition. They just wait and open all the gifts on Christmas. She is feeling lots of pain and suffering because it’s not going to happen. Ruth felt lots of pain in her heart area and her family was suffering because she was angry and disappointed and not very nice.

Assuming – Assuming can cause pain and suffering. When someone assumes something they are making it up. There is no truth to assumptions. An assumption is something made up that may happen in the future. For example, Edith assumes that her son will have a bad future if he doesn’t go to college. They have both been arguing because he wants to do something else for a few years after high school and she wants him to immediately go to college. She keeps telling him that he will never get a good job or have a financial, comfortable future without a college degree. Their arguing is causing both of them pain. The fact is, neither one of them know if that is true or not. All they know is that is Edith’s opinion. So, for the holidays, stay away from making assumptions about anything or anyone. It’s not true and definitely not worth it. In fact, stop making assumptions all together.

Monitoring – The final behavior to stop if you want to live a happier and more compassionate life especially during the holidays is monitoring. I’m sure you all know someone who is that nosy neighbor or friend who always knows what everyone is doing because he is watching and monitoring. If you look at your daily behaviors you may notice that you monitor, as well.

Jonathan has a wonderful and beautiful girlfriend. However, he notices how so many of the men look at her. He kept monitoring who was looking at her at the store, at the restaurant, at the movies and so on. It was making him angry and uncomfortable. He felt pain in his jaw, his neck was tight and his heart area hurt. Jennifer, his girlfriend, was feeling pain because he kept complaining about all the boys who look and smile at her and she couldn’t do anything about it. Monitoring can cause lots of pain and suffering when the person who is monitoring doesn’t like what they are seeing.

Peter has 6 other brothers. It is Christmas day and as they are opening their gifts he is monitoring what each brother receives to make sure he gets the best of gifts or at least equal to what his brothers get. This year they all got different gifts and some received 2 and 3 gifts. There was no big gift. This was frustrating for Peter because instead of enjoying the moment he was busy monitoring each and every gift that was being opened. This was a painful and suffering time for him. If he wasn’t monitoring everything he could have enjoyed the moments and the gifts.

In conclusion, if we can catch ourselves when we begin wanting, holding, assuming, and monitoring and STOP doing them our lives can be lighter, happier, and much more compassionate.