Category: Inner Essence Journey

Assuming is mine. What is yours?

stop stop stopAs November has ended and December is here I want to share the other 3 STOP behaviors.  Last post I shared how WANTING can be a behavior to STOP.  The other 3 behaviors that, when stopped, bring a plethora of love and compassion to our lives.

HOLDING on to something or someone can be painful when we have to let go.  If pain and suffering occur then we need to let go of that HOLDING behavior.  Some of us hold on to things.  Other of us hold on to beliefs, and many of us hold on to people.   Again, holding on to people, things etc. is fine unless we feel pain and suffering when we have to let go.   I want to make something clear here.  When we hold on to a person, maybe a partner, and we have to let go for whatever reason, we will often feel pain.  But, the pain and suffering I am talking about is when our lives become unlivable.

ASSUMING is my hardest behavior to stop.  I can think of all kinds of reasons but the fact is that I assume things that, at times, cause pain and suffering.   For example, during the holidays if someone doesn’t come to my gathering I assume they don’t like me and I feel pain.  Another example of assuming that I am working on is I assume silence with someone means I’m boring and I feel uncomfortable and sad.  I am working on stopping these assumptions daily and I must say life is much easier and joyful.

The last STOP behavior that we need to watch is MONITORING.  When we monitor others’ behaviors etc. we can cause pain and suffering for them and us.  As parents we often want to monitor everything our children do and say.  It is important to watch out for our children but we need to be careful not to be “helicopter” parents.  It can cause pain and suffering for everyone involved.  We know our children and know what we need to keep and eye on.  Let the rest go.  Some of us monitor our colleagues, neighbors, competition at work etc.  If pain and suffering happens because of that, STOP doing it.

Finally, when we are feeling pain and suffering and not sure why, I suggest taking a look at those 4 STOP behaviors (WHAM).  Most of the time we are doing one or more of them.  Stopping them will give us the opportunity to change our lives from fear to love.

Now, many of you have mentioned how do we do that.  How do we stop those behaviors?  Honestly, simply stopping them is what needs to happen.  However, there are 5 Laws of Life to follow that will make stopping those behaviors easier and will bring love and compassion back into our lives.

  1. The Law of intent. statement-of-intentionGet into the habit and looking and what you say and asking  yourself  “What is my intention…” of saying or doing that. If it comes from love, then you know your intention is true.  If not, then that means that is a behavior to stop.
  2. The Law of possibility.  We need to remember anything is possible once we set our intention and if it comes from love and compassion. possibilities Don’t limit yourself or others.  For example, if you are monitoring someone and judging her choices by thinking that will never happen remember the law of possibility.
  3. The law of choice.  You ALWAYS have a choice even if it is not to do anything.  You have a choice to stop a behavior or not.  You have a choice to come from love or fear.
  4. The Law of giving.  The act of giving is very powerful and when done from love and compassion will make this world a better place.
  5. The Law of trust.  We need to trust that everying is just the way it is supposed to be even if we don’t understand it. trust When we can let go of those STOP behaviors each day and trust we are truly living a life filled with love and compassion.

I hope this helps you have a joy filled holiday season.  It is helping me each day.







I am taking some risks lately and am reminded of this wonderful poem by William Ward.   It supports the Five Laws of Life (Living From Your Heart) that I practice daily and my choices throughout this time of my life.    I thought it might be relevant to you.  


To laugh is to risk appearing a fool,

To weep is to risk appearing sentimental.

To reach out to another is to risk involvement,

To expose feelings is to risk exposing your true self.

To place your ideas and dreams before a crowd is to risk their loss.

To love is to risk not being loved in return,

To live is to risk dying,

To hope is to risk despair,

To try is to risk failure.

But risks must be taken because the greatest   hazard in life is to risk nothing.

The person who risks nothing, does nothing, has nothing, is nothing.

He may avoid suffering and sorrow,

But he cannot learn, feel, change, grow or live.

Chained by his servitude he is a slave who has forfeited all freedom.

Only a person who risks is free.

The pessimist complains about the wind;

The optimist expects it to change;

And the realist adjusts the sails.

-William Arthur Ward


Holiday gift for family and co-workers​


cropped-katherine-dasta-highresjpegLiving from Your Heart: The Inner Essence Journey is a great gift to give family members or people you work with or any group that you spend time with and want to have a more cooperative, loving and compassionate relationship together.

It is a book that teaches four behaviors to stop when they cause pain and suffering to you or others.  Then, the Five Essential Laws of Life are explained.  They are guidelines to follow when you find yourself doing any of the STOP behaviors and to generally follow throughout the days.  It also teaches stretching exercises for your body.  Finally, the readers will learn about energy centers in our bodies called chakras and how to pay attention to their body and learn what it needs and what it is telling you.

When a person practices the Inner Essence Journey alone it is very powerful because she becomes more aware of her behaviors and feels the pain in her body more clearly which informs her as to what and where her energy is blocked.  However, when a family or a group of workers practice the Inner Essence Journey together the benefits multiply profoundly.  family playingThe people in the group are supporting each other to STOP certain behaviors and to follow the Five Laws of Life.  It feels much better to have a home or work environment that is more cooperative and compassionate.  It’s a way to be a family, a team, a group working together.   If you want to give a meaningful holiday gift idea for coworkers and family I suggest giving Living From Your Heart:  The Inner Essence Journey and then practice the program together in the New Year.  It is truly a gift that can last forever.

Finding Yourself Through Travel

Tegucigalpa, Honduras


I believe finding yourself through travel is a true way to regroup with your Essence, your self.  Years ago I traveled to Honduras and India to bring home my children.  It was the beginning of finding my love and appreciation of travel. Map and compas When I travel to a new country, I have what Buddhist call beginner’s mind.  Everything is new as I am experiencing everything for the first time.  It is a wonderful experience because I am also experiencing parts of me for the first time.  I am aware of my need to communicate with a second language and how challenging that is.  I am aware of what it feels like to be a minority.  I am aware of what it feels like to be a mother for the first time.  I am not confident in the culture of the countries and it is so fun to experience things as new and find things about myself as new.

Later I found that traveling to peaceful islands or places near the ocean brings me to a different part of myself.  I find that the water gives me such peace and tranquility that my Inner Essence Practice can be fueled by the time I spend near the water.  My favorite place is an island in the Bahamas called Eleuthera.  It is about 100 miles long and seven miles wide.  The Carribean is on one side and the Atlantic is on the other.   There is very little tourism.  The island has one main road down the middle of the island. Governor Harbor, Eleuthera I am able to be with my Essence in a calm, supportive environment which strengthens my ability to be in my Inner Essence Journey.  It is challenging to be on my journey some days in my busy city with all my life demands in my face.  I want to be able to practice my Inner Essence Journey everywhere but once in a while, it is nice to go somewhere quiet, beautiful, and peaceful to energize myself and strengthen my desire and ability to live from my heart.  Most of the people on this island are perfect examples of living from your heart.  They are compassionate, loving, caring, and helpful.  There are no feelings of greed, judgment, or anger.  Each time I leave the island I am ready to bring their ability to live from their heart back home with me.  Eleuthera is my “go to” place when I need to travel to a place that I can rest, relax, meditate, do yoga, eat healthily, go on long walks on empty beaches and find my true self, my Essence, again.


Some journeyers find that going to a spa to rest and relax, eat a healthy diet, get massages and meditate in the mountains, the desert or on a beach by the ocean.  Others find a way to strengthen their Inner Essence by going to a retreat center or an ashram or monastery.

I am sure you have your favorite spot that supports your Essence.  Lake in the mountainsThis place should be a place that you go to find yourself again and spend time there find your true self again.  Some people feel the mountains do that for them.  Camping high in the mountains brings them closer to their Essence.  camping in mountainsOthers like to be in a big city in a different country where no one knows you.  You can immerse yourself in their culture and see yourself through new eyes.

Finding yourself through travel can be a powerful component to your Inner Essence Project.

Where would that place be for you?  Comment below.  I reply quickly.